What season are you in?

Had an interesting convo on the way to church and just so happened to be in a "carpool". Not really sure how it came up, but the guy driving began to go into how males at church see me. Oh yeah, I remember. He asked us ladies in the car if men in church approach us. I said, nope sure don't. Then he began to explain his perception of the matter. I think this is the gist (or at least what I heard) :

- You're unapproachable (because you have a "don't talk to me" look)

- unavailable because you're barely at church

- unavailable because you're always at work.

- You're not cordial

- Not conversational, very straight to the point

He said a man would look at you and assume you're either married or you're taken. You have a regal stance about you. But it just depends on what season you're in and if thats not what you're looking for then just keep doing what you're doing.

Well, all this may very well be true. I tried my very best not to be offended by these statements. And I took them and thought about them. I think it looks to them like I'm not giving anyone of them the time of day because frankly, I don't think they are worth my time.

Why even flirt if I'm not interested?

So, yeah of course I want to be married. But I'm not inviting all and any advances. To me, thats just a waste of time. Should I apologize for my security? I refuse.

He mentioned that a man may watch a woman for a couple months before he approaches her. Well if a man has watched me for that long and feels like I'm not worth talking to, then I don't think I want him to. And if he does try to contact me and I don't make myself available, trust me its for a reason.

Because I don't want to talk to you.

I cannot come down to appease someones insecurity. If they can't even approach me to have a conversation and find out how I really am then its just not meant to be. If he can't even approach me then why would I want him to run my household? And if we have a conversation and there's no chemistry, then I'm just done. Don't waste my time and I won't waste yours.

I thank God for keeping me all this time and the encouragement I get daily is great. However, I'm human and I think when, when will it be my turn?

And needless to say, this guy who brought up this conversation is not one I would even consider. Nor have I seen anyone I would consider in that church. Which probably is the reason for my demeanor. But it is something to think about.

I almost get tired of the stats. This percentage of this. This number of that. I'm over it. But, still optimistic :) .

I'm sure of the kind of man that will keep my attention and until then I'm cool.